On February 1, 1992, I was born on just the other side of the RI-CT border in Putnam, CT to Don and Ruth Loghry. Since then, I have now lived 25 years. Here are my thoughts:
- As a child I knew what it meant to need others, to need my church, my friends, and my family. You might suppose that would be something you'd grow out of, but I haven't found that to be case. If anything, I have found that with every passing day I need them all the more.
- In life, you don’t need a lot of friends, just a few good ones. Selling out to be liked by others is some of the worst kind of self-hatred. If I could go back, I’d spend my time with the people who loved me instead of chasing the affections of persons who despised me and all that I loved.
My mom always told me to eat my food slower, to take some time to enjoy the food before inhaling it. Her wisdom applies not only to food but also to every living moment. I have rushed through many moments in life to get to the next- I wish I could go back and savor them.
Fear and anxiety ruled the man who buried his talent in the ground. He tried to hide from his responsibilities. Anxiety is a luxury I cannot afford, though I have indulged in its expense far too many times- life before God demands responsible action. A tip of the hat to good old Dietrich Bonhoeffer on that revelation.
- Love is not selfish. This is what marriage has taught me despite my strongest protests.
- Fatherhood has shown me what it means to live and act for another. It ever so slightly pushes me out of the center of my own world- however stubborn my self-centeredness may be.
- Loving God is the toughest thing in life. It is easier to love idols, to love all those things that either affirm you or numb you to the pain within. God’s love rescued me but it is killing me daily.
- It is difficult to trust God. Many things that happen in life don’t make sense. Many questions leave us unnerved. “Why?” is ultimately met by silence. It is said we need the faith of a child. In my life, I never stopped trusting God was big- I only stopped believing I was small. You’ll never trust God if you think you’re just as big as He is.